Mindset is REFRACTION

Refraction

With a lens in hand, we need to see, what our mind do to us, it simply refracts the each thought and idea which comes through it and divert it in different forms, instead, get a focus of what was real need of that idea, or the background or ground beneath that idea, why that was generated.

In a group of discussion, biases existing in our own minds, towards caste, gender, groups, prevail, who cares to see the situation as it really is. It will be lot more easier, when we start to Understand !!!

To simplify the above, a simple illustration, we all can relate to is : a teacher lecturing in a class, seems so boring to some students and may appeal at large to some students, very less of them realise, why she is speaking continuously, what was the need. She came all along to give you some lecture and why are you sitting there to listen to her, or in their way of understanding – further say, why they are compelled to sit at that place to grasp her ways of teaching. Those who do not try to get that underlying ground for their presence at that place, will leave all that is said or told, in the classroom only. Those who will simply understand, there is a reason, behind appointing and presence of a teacher – to take their learning to next level, will take some of the words spoken by teacher with them, for their own good.

The ways of learning for all of us are different, as per our convenience mostly. Today I read a message which says “The capacity to learn is a gift; The ability to learn is a skill; the willingness to learn is a choice – Brian Herbet.”

In the above message, my simple understanding said, all are visitors to this earth with various forms of teachings around us, only our willingness to learn what we really want to, takes us to the next level of learning; else we are all confined to our existing levels; The blame goes to environment, people and surrounding for not treating us, right  !!

Instead, our own willingness helps us to understand what really happened or happening. We simply enjoy and when are stopped from that enjoyment, a resentment is developed as a reflex action, which converts into so much noise into us, which gives us all anxiety and we become danger to others. We blame them, creating life uneasy for others !! Instead of blame, willingness to learn will develop and enhance our own capability to see that situation, with an insight !! 

who controls

Emotions Controlled by Needs

There are so many people in this world, that maintaining laws and rules to guard the interest of any particular person is entirely impossible. Sometimes, people want to make Rules, anyhow, it does not fit into their behaviour. The human life is like any other animal, in the animal kingdom, is designed to live in jungle like habitat, which now has civilised themselves, stating to be enjoying various paths, which gives them satisfaction.

The races of other animal kingdom, simply eat and lives, other than humans, who eat simply to sustain their life, their priorities are different. The humans try to gather more knowledge, information, and ways to prove its own supremacy, by any means. Their way to satisfy themselves, yes, we are superpowers. They are always in this quest.

Their supremacy on this planet is self revealing, if we look around and see how drastically they changed the ecology, and environment, what they want is what they create; whereas other creatures of animal kingdom, live in surroundings what is naturally offered to them, or they migrate, move or drift in suitable environments…as per the needs and suitability for them;

Now, in process of evolution, learning, discovery, different phases of life, affects their mindset, brain, lifestyle, sometimes, they are even vary of those lifestyles variations!! But, more and more they expose themselves, more and more they evolves, sometimes becomes aggressive also, as they know more, they want to gather more!!

The nature does not allow the rules to be broken, even by human intervention, who try to control !! For nature, creatures of all animal kingdom, has to obey, its good or bad. So, humans do not accept, this nature’s phenomenon of going its own way. They re-route nature to follow their command, as their emotions are controlled by personal needs.

Any human who try to control, has all means to control others, ways, thoughts, actions, deeds, but simply no means to control their own self, just because, one has supreme mind which guides them to control others, not themselves. The mind and brain both guides that how they have to be so powerful, by their guided emotions which originates from their entirely personal needs and which guides them to that extent, that they always want to be in control, not controlled by nature !!

Whatever, whoever, comes in their way, they try to persuade by words to give way, and do not sit idle, unless their emotions driven by needs wholly control the nature. Alas, they never know what comes next, nature is so unpredictable, so those in control are always at unrest, unease and in action, in thoughts, what next, and how next, they have no time to relax and sleep. 

The nature has designed the animal kingdom to follow their gut instincts for controlling needs, there is no scope of emotional control by needs, which are derivatives of comparisons and gaining power over something, very insignificant, as compared to your natural instincts. Fun, happiness, anger, fear, all drives power from nature, as per situational aspect of upcoming events, there is no harm in any emotions, their control over us, is temporary, whereas the needs controlling emotions are impacting our permanent nature and creates defects, which are irreparable !!

happy ending

In the journey of a road, the destination is important and focus is on destination, the scenery is ignored !!

For a life full of ups and downs, memories are such sceneries, some relish and some do not have at all !! Her life is full of life, love and memories.

When a milestone person of my life journey left this world, I looked back at her journey, she has full arms welcoming life, in form of people around her, children of all ages, a women whose presence was source of smile for others !! She has fan following, whom she gave strength by her words, by her pocket of coins (which she binds), food and tea she has anything to offer, she has always anything to offer, except harsh words !!

The power of her love was immense, her house has open doors for any person, welcoming them and offering them her best wishes were her favourite !! She was unaware of con-man/woman, she relished talking !!

For her, world is good place, beautiful place and only good humanbeings live here !!

For us, she was the world. Why ? She has good words to offer us, always in building our self-confidence our self esteem and our good smiles were her priorities. She never tried to say anything which lowered our self esteem and our presence was more than enough for her to make her happy, always waiting for next visit and next meeting, she loved talking !!

Great deeds, great words, great philosphers, great philanthropist, came in this world and went away, people read their stories, novels, biographies, For US, the person who was the theory, philosophy, most educated was only my Nani, who nurtured us with her sweet words, without compromising on her thoughts, her own perception of life, always focusing on her best to take care of feelings !! She got education to live life, keep loving US, and moreover herself with her sweetness intact in any situation and circumstances.

She could do anything, without hurting !! She had maintained her feeble structure by doing things, hobbies of her choice, kept her busy schedule and sleeping in most sound manner, without wrinkles or frowning face. When she touched my hand, taking into her hand, that was best feeling on this earth !! How could I ever loose to memorise her touch, her warmth for which she came on this planet, for making a difference, it was her identity and her uniqueness, her love !! She remains with us, She was forever aLIVE !!